Advice on Dating. continued from here  
     
  Good and Smart go well Together
Inthe case of serious intentions, and you are indeed looking for a life partner comply with:

Condition Number 2:
Under18, only groups dating. Only the really smart youths will follow this ruleand even extend it to at least 21.
     
Hormones and Morons
There is of cause the mostly sexual, hormones driven dating; making out, in the back of the car, or elsewhere.  The boys trying to get in the girl's pants. The girls might like this because of the false notion of being attractive, however the girl is mostly just an other notch under his belt. There is a lot of this in the movies from the late 60th and 70th, almost glorified, atleast portrayed as normal, natural. They keep rerunning those movies and poisoning the young minds. By now, we should have overcome the effects of the sexual revolution, the sex revolution that gave us the disasters of constant increasing numbers of single mothers, rampant VD, including AIDS, more than a 50% divorce rate, increased juvenile crime and drug use, etc. And the contemporary movies got even more explicit. And so for young minds, it seems as if all that stuff is normal daily life, if there are no restrictions, no limitations. The day time soaps the same. All this "conditions" you, so you assume that it is normal. Therefor:  
     
  Equal Value
  Conditionnumber 3:
      Both, boy and girl,should only with the most sincere intentions get into dating each other: not just trying out, playing the field, etc. The callous of heart will leave broken hearts along the way. 

Condition number4:
The boy should withouthesitation be willing to visit the girl and her parents at their home:no picking up at the curb! The parents are as important to the date as the girland the boy.
     
Both Sites are Responsible  
There is also the parasitically type of dating. Mostly by girls who like to have the good time, food and drinks without the true interest in the dated young man as a prospective partner for life.
It can even be of the "floozy" variety; the girl gets what she wants and easy gives what the boy wants; however in the end they are both hurt in their diminished characters. Both are "damaged good". There is a small possibility that the boy originally had true intentions. When the girl drops him next time for an other, he will become a disappointed and unreliable prospective partner for any other date. His heart will have changed.		  
     
  Real Black Lies
When the boy, for some reason, it might be possible that he thinks that he isexpected to get active with his hands, you need to let him understand, that he has only one more chance to behave. And don't believe that he will die if you will not have sex with him. Also don't be impressed with his "you don't love me when you don't have sex with me". If you want to mess up both of your future's, you listen to his lies. He better bring you home immediately. This kind of pressuring does not show the deserved and required mutual respect.
     
TheValue of Preparation  
As an absolute principle,  there should be no sex before marriage. There can be no marriage without total commitment. Divorce makes two more losers and two more rich lawyers. 

And if every thing went well and after a year or two you got engaged and both of you are planning for the great day, then:

ConditionNumber 5: 
You first have to be financial independent, not even to speak about having finished your education, as your candidate partner should be. 

If your prospective partner is wealthy and can be expected to be a good provider for a possible family, your personal financial situation might be less important. Money is important for family. Without sufficient money, love might get greatly challenged. Don't think you are a gold digger when you expect your future husband to be financial well off. It makes good sense.

  
     
  For a Better Lineage
  You think it goes to far to talk about all this, when you just look for some simple dating advice? Do not under estimate the importance of the effect ofdating on your future!
Marriage is connecting two families. To make them one family; not just one couple! The purpose of dating is to match. The right match is an important aspect of life and is in some cultures not left to the inexperienced, the youths. It's done by the parents or/and a match maker. This seems to go against the egalitarian sense of the general American, who has the "romantic falling in love" concept. However, the notion that: It's my life and I dowhat I want with it" is narrow minded, as it is the expression of selfishness.You need to take in consideration that you are the link between past and future generations.
  Whether your World view derives from evolution theory or believe in a Creator, you are the product of a lineage of many generations. What goal would you think this lineage has? Wouldn't it be to become better and better? Why then should you wait with making steps in that direction?
     
EmailCLEAR-INFO Your Comments
  Links to Sites with Similar Topics and Issues.